Another girl talk here! I’ve hesitated with this topic , but I feel like this should be a topic discussed amongst us women…especially since social media has literally started to “run our world“. Let me just say, I am not writing this post in a “you vs. me” aspect. As females, I am almost 150% sure that we’ve BOTH experienced jealousy and envy towards an individual due to their success or something they have. This post is to strictly help us analyze our thought process as we start to feel these emotions. This has helped me and I know it will help you.
We need to start asking “why?” and “what can we do to achieve what we want to achieve?” rather than “why does this individual have this and I don’t?”. This is called coveting and once you start to covet, often times you start to envy that individual or become jealous of that individual.
First, let me define both emotions. Envy is an emotion that causes you to bear a grudge due to what an individual may have. Jealousy is an emotion that makes you resent an individual due to their success. These emotions are completely natural and come out of nowhere, however I want to help us change our thought process.
First, if you haven’t heard this before, there is a story behind everyone’s achievement. That individual didn’t just wake up out of bed and get a 100k YouTube followers, become a Grammy Award winner or write a book that has now become a #1 New York Times best seller. For everything that we see, that individual has gone through plenty of battles to achieve that specific success. By the way, the reason why I am using sucess as an example for this post is because it’s the main reason for people in their twenties to feel this way. Some graduate before another, some get a job before another, some are traveling before another, e.t.c. This is a HUGE issue for individuals in their twenties (23 and up).
The first thing I want you to know if, life is not a race. The worst thing you can do is try to compare yourself to another individual. We all get things when the time is right. If a door/opportunity doesn’t open for you, then it doesn’t mean another won’t come along the way. Stay focused on YOU, YOUR goals and the things YOU can do to achieve those goals.
The second thing I want you all to think about is using that person as an inspiration rather than idolizing them. Often times we often sit back and idolize a person’s success. For example, when we meet a celebrity, the first thing that we’ll probably say is “Can we take a photo?”…or in this day in age “Can we take a selfie?“. That photo is temporary satisfaction, however in the same amount of time we can look up that persons biography and intake beneficial information about that individual’s success. Let’s start asking these successful individuals for advice!
Lastly, TAKE ACTION. I have met plenty of individuals who do more talking of a lifetime rather than action. If you want something take action. Nothing is stopping you at all. Take time to sit down and brainstorm about what you want and how you can achieve it. Beyonce has 24 hours in a day , Obama has 24 hours in a day, Veronica Roth has 24 hours in a day and so do you.
T A K E A C T I O N !