Happy September 22nd! Yet, another hiatus, but I hope you guys love me enough to stay with me (*hug*)!

It was a sunny Saturday afternoon Downtown Brooklyn  as I was strolling to one of my favorite Thai places for a “me-time” lunch and I remember my older sister asking me over the phone “How do you show people you love them?.”

I honestly had no idea how to answer that because I never deeply thought about it.

As a younger child, “I love you” was told to me, it was shown to me by action and certainly I said “I love” a lot of things including family, friends, food and candy (lol). You know, the surface definition. This word love is constantly thrown around so much that it’s meaning becomes so diluted, meaningless and can be said without knowing and having an intimate relationship with that specific thing or person. Honestly, it wasn’t until I discovered Christ love for me that I realized what the definition of real love was.

If you watched my YouTube video “#FAITH I My Walk With GOD” you would know that I initially struggled with realizing God’s love. I don’t know if you can relate, but being new in your “Christian Walk”,it usually takes that one special intimate experience where God proved to YOU that he cares. He proved to me that he truly loves me and I can now say his love never fails! Even when I fail him, he proves to me that he cares.

For example, after I’ve gotten saved, I threw myself in a relationship. Once again, I found myself in a position that I was longing to fill that empty void. This person served a different God (he was Muslim), but I was convinced that he will be converted. He never took me out on a date, but was convinced that it would get better. I wanted to stay in that relationship! I had that plan, but God laughed and had another.

I was not at peace in that relationship.

God used people to speak to me during that time about unequally yoked relationships, my Pastor specifically gave a sermon on that topic specifically one Sunday, and friends told me “Emari, you need to get out of that.”. I had ZERO peace. *Side note*- God truly uses ANYTHING/ANYONE. He does give signs, indeed!

One day I finally ended it and it felt like a whole weight was lifted. If  that’s not love, I don’t know what to call it! Patience was shown. Protection  was shown. Most importantly, after I ended it, he kept no record of my wrongs. Although God has shown me love, I often find myself receiving it rather than giving it.

Looking at the verse 1 Corinthians 13:4-7:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Looking at this verse, I was always taught to replace the word love and replace it with your name. Do you exemplify these things? I was extremely convicted recently about this

I want to challenge us all to self-examine ourselves. Are we truly loving people? Sometimes, receiving it can be easier than giving it. I will be keeping a journal of at least one thing I do to serve another person a day. It’s always good to take the focus off of us sometimes

We love because he first loved us.”

1 John 4:19


Let’s Get Back 2 Basics- “Real Talk”.

Males have stronger bonds than females”.

 I  honestly believed that until I started experiencing life and people through different lenses . Boy, was I glad to trade in the old pair!

Thus far, this year has been a year of complete transformation. Of course, this transformation goodness wasn’t the work of my own, but I give all the glory to God! It seems like he has been guiding me to meet some of the most beautiful souls who have such an impact on my life (just another prayer answered!).The Certified 10 workshop was yet another positive thing to add to this years list of  fresh new experiences!

Before I get into everything, Certified 10 is a movement started by Yetti of lifestyle blog YettiSays.com. This movement caters to mental health, self value and women empowerment.


It was the morning of the Certified 10 #Back2Basics brunch and I had no idea what was going to happen. From the title “Emptying The Closet”, all I knew was that we were about to talk about some raw real-ness! I was completely open minded and ready to rid myself of the unnecessary mental baggage. I got up, made sure the makeup was on FLEEK (you guys know I love a good face lol), and threw on a simple black midi dress. I grabbed my camera and was out the door!

Once I reached the city and after 5 minutes of looking for the event venue on the wrong block (I am so known for that haha), I arrived. The venue was gorgeous! Every couple of minutes, a brown skin beauty came walking in. Little did I know, the girls walking into this venue that were once complete strangers would become women that share some of the same struggles that I face. I was completely comfortable being in the room with such amazing woman! Tears were shed, laughter and joy filled our hearts as we rejoiced in sharing the struggles we’ve overcame and some that we’re still are battling. I thought to myself, “Oh, this is what Certified 10 is about”!

This event truly brought forward the things in my mind that I constantly pushed back because I thought that I have dealt with them.

One of the activities was to draw out a moment or insecurity from the back of our mental closets. It took me a long time to figure out what I wanted to draw (my issue was all the way in the back of the closet), but once I did I couldn’t even fully draw it out. I thought I forgave and rid myself of the bitterness, but once I rest the red crayon on the white sheet paper, I had to draw “it” in the simplest form to spare myself the break down. Once we were all done, we all hung these moments and insecurities on hangers and they were all rolled away to represent the release of our unnecessary mental baggage. This was a wonderful exercise and may I just add, God is certainly still helping me in that certain situation.

So no , the statement of  “males have stronger bonds than females” is no longer a fact in my head. It’s nothing more satisfying than meeting a confident, encouraging, selfless women who values herself and those around her! I have been meeting plenty lately, including the woman that I’ve met at this event. If you haven’’t met one,  maybe you can be that women!


Until next time!






#PURPOSE-Is There An Opportunity Shortage?


The underlying root to everything that we do have to do with faith and trust. This is true whether you’re a believer in Christ or not.

For every dream and passion we have, we hope to reach our personal success point. Whether it’s pointing individuals to the cross, an artist who wants to be great in all forms of art or even being a teacher who wants to succeed in increasing a child’s education, we have trust and faith.

Trust in faith in what though?

Back when I started my blog in 2009, I used to be a big advocate for self help books. We live in a society that truly emphasizes self. Love yourself, trust yourself, help yourself and protect yourself. You hear it all the time! When I first started my blog, this stuck with me. I was truly about self. So much about me, my goals and I that I said later to even lending a helping hand to some individuals! Crazy, right?

Not only did I decide to write about this because what I learned by being this way, but because I saw a disturbing YouTube video earlier this month. I watched an individual rant for about 20 minutes about a friend “stealing her dream and purpose”. I thought to myself “Is this a such thing?”. Can individuals share same gift and be used in different ways? Absolutely!

When we have so much trust and love in only self, this leaves room for fear. Fear that there will be no opportunities left if we help someone else out. Fear that someone will become more successful than us. A lot of fear overtakes you. The great cause of that is too much trust and love for self.

Looking back now and seeing who I am becoming with Christ in me,when it comes to my dreams and walking in Gods will I realize that only having trust in me isn’t going to work. I need someone greater in me. I need God. I know that when I am walking in Gods will for my life, nothing can take what God has for me. You lose that great sense of fear!

In conclusion:

There is no shortage of opportunities. Let’s stop acting like the opportunity river will run dry. We can all be something. Let’s serve one another! If we don’t I guarantee that we’ll meet all the people we’ve discouraged on the way DOWN as they’re on their way UP!  Let’s keep God as the center of everything we do and trust his agenda, not our own. Be encouraged to encourage!


DISTRACTIONS- Learning To Focus.



Lately, I been feeling  extremely distracted. Maybe it’s because I’m growing older and recognizing that time is crucial. Who you spend it with and what you do with it is very important. After all, throughout time those experiences start to absorb in you and eventually affects your mood, behavior, and most importantly your thoughts! Almost 24 years of age, I can honestly say that I somewhat know what I want and need in life, but sometimes distractions lead me off the right track.

One day, it came to me. I was spending entirely too much time with things that distracted me. I thought to myself, “Really? I can be doing things that are more beneficial spirituality, physically and mentally!“. Shortly after this thought came to me, Heather Lindsey- uploaded a video “Distractions: The Fight To Be Disciplined“. Well, let’s just say that she definitely spoke about some of my distractions!

*Insert Side Eye Emoji*.

Don’t you LOVE when you are put on the spot during a sermon or conversation? That person speaks of exactly what you’re doing wrong and you feel the conviction even more! #NOSHADE haha!

Truth is, I just want to reach my full potential in life spirituality and mentally. I believe we all can, but distractions can pull us away from that. You may want to spend time with god, but your distracted with social media and/or television. You may have to get things done around your apartment, but every time a friend calls asking you to go out you say “yes” with no hesitation .

This post was not written with the intentions of saying you can live a life free from distractions, but to rather acknowledge them and set boundaries! A life without boundaries or discipline will make you all types of crazy! For example, one of my distractions is social media. Whether Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook, we can spend lots of time looking at the lives of other individuals not knowing that the combined time we spend on it in a day can be a total of hours! Now I monitor my time on those networks and truly learned to tell myself “alright, that’s enough!”.

I encourage you to analyze what you do with time. Like I stated in the beginning, time is valuable. You can spend your whole life fully engaged in things distracting  you from your purpose. We must learn to set boundaries and to simply say “no” .

Until next time,



DETAILED EYEBROW TUTORIAL -Anastasia Dip Brow Pomade (Chocolate)!



Isn’t it crazy that eyebrows are “IN”?

As you all notice, the trend of defining eyebrows by eyebrow pencils and gels has taken over the beauty world! I love doing this as well, but I prefer my brows to still have that “natural look”…obviously it’s not natural haha!

Some of my very close friends ask me what products I use for my eyebrows from time to time and I love to share! I absolutely love cosmetics and sharing what works for me. Today, I filmed an eyebrow tutorial to share how I get my eyebrows”ON FLEEK” (lol). I hope that you enjoy this very detailed eyebrow tutorial!

Products Used:

-Anastasia Dip Brow Pomade (Chocolate)
-MAC 266 Angled Brush
-LA GIRL Concealer in Fawn
-Elf Duo Eyebrow Brush


Where Did Your Character Go?


“You have the most beautiful hair in the world” said a women on a NYC subway to a complete stranger. As the other individual takes out her earphones, she responded along with a smile so bright that you can tell it was that very compliment that brightened up her soul as she said “Thank you” .

That conversation I overheard made me think about character. Where did it go?

That was a conversation I overheard on a NYC subway recently. Yep, New York City! Besides, that girl did have one of thee best Bantu knot outs that I’ve ever saw! If you don’t know what that is, here is a photo reference.

I’ve been living in New York City all my life and never realized our culture as individuals. You get up to often ride public transportation packed with strangers like sardines.  No one utters a word. Some individuals look too tired to even speak….and others, well let’s say that there in “their own world”. This city is in a rush. A rush to go….somewhere. Whether it would be publicly or in the professional world, EVERYONE has somewhere to go. It’s no longer about your character, but in this city you become “what you do”. That strong drive can cause us to lose ourselves and forget our character, which in fact matter’s most.

Imagine a world that stripped you from all materialistic things- job titles, salaries, name brands, e.t.c- all “artificial highs/things that makes us whole”. What would you be? Most importantly, who would you be? Will you still feel like you mean something to the world or most crucial- to the people ?

We as individuals need a change.

As I grow older, I constantly think “Is this what it’s all about?”. As I continue to grow , I am growing closer and closer to God and along that journey I am learning to die to self.  I don’t do much talking about me. I hate to tell people the company I work for and what I do because the “oohs and ahhs” begin. Not because of the company, but until I say what I do, individuals seem uninterested. It’s quite sad! I can’t imagine me making it to where I am now without the glory and grace of God. Yes, encouragement helps, however even when I felt discouraged and like my work wasn’t enough, I always made it through. This cannot be my own effort.

I wanted to write this post to  (1) vent haha and (2) remind you all that it’s always nice to be “someone”, but it’s also nice to treat people with respect and kindness. The Bible states “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32). Smile often to complete strangers. Be curious as to how one feels. Personally, this is something I am working on. I try everyday to smile more or even ask people how they’re doing. Just remember, what people show you is just the surface. Just because an individual smiles doesn’t mean he/she is happy. Dig deeper and don’t lose yourself on titles, salaries, and status. Besides, materialism doesn’t last.

Got character?


#MotivationMonday (LATE)- Get Up & Go After What You Want!


Isn’t it about that time? Often times we start a plan for renewal only for the New Year and lose that great sense of  ambition after that. We tell ourselves “This year, I will finally go to the gym”, “This year I will build a relationship with Jesus” (…which I highly encourage #NOSHADE lol), or even “This year I will become a better me”. Somehow that motivation is lost and we find ourselves in the same place. Where did that motivation come from and most importantly how can we find it again?

Year after year, I remember setting goals to achieve so many things!  Trust me, just like you that motivation was lost until I discovered tips and tricks to help me. But today I am telling you, that you can get it back at this very moment like I did!

This year on my YouTube Channel, I decided to make a visual mood board for my goals. Just to name a few, my goals were to become a mentor for the Big Brothers Big Sister Organization, build a relationship with God, and work harder on my career goals. Today, I am  in the process of becoming a mentor –went through training and all (#YAY!) . I can say my relationship with God is getting better and better day by day. Lastly for career goals, I  recently had my first #MUA experience and working hard on inspirational content for SoulStyleBeauty!

So how do I stay motivated, you may ask? I don’t have any kind of special DNA, I have 24 hours in a day and if you’re reading this, I know we are already way more alike than you think! So just like me, you can reach your goals!

Let go of distractions– Let’s face it. We are both young and like to hang out with friends, but that can be a total distraction when you are trying to reach your goals. Time is one of thee most crucial things. You can waste it or use it wisely! I take ME TIME  every weekend. This definitely sacrifices my time with friends, but if your friends truly love you they will understand! Friends aren’t the only things that can distract you, but television (Oh yes, that good ol’ ratchet tv lol) and social media are distractions as well. Don’t over do it!

Stay Prayerful-  God has your back! Ask him to keep you focused on your purpose and your dreams. Spirituality is also a part of building a business or brand. I know I want god to be a part of anything that  I do! I encourage you guys to pray, pray and pray some more!

No Coveting or Envy Please!- No coveting (worrying about the thing you want that another individual already has) or envy (what you feel towards someone when he has something that you want) please! Life is a journey. Not you and another individual’s journey. When it comes to what you want to achieve, focus on your progression. Envy and coveting will not only slow down or stop your motivation, but it can make you a nasty competitive person. Worry about your progression ladies!

Stay Grateful for ALL Accomplishments- Whether big or small, be grateful. If you can’t be grateful for what you have, how will you ever reach satisfaction? When tracking, be grateful for every milestone! This is crucial!

Practice #SHAMELESS Promotion- It is so hard for me sometimes to tell people about my YouTube or Blog, but it truly can help you gain an audience. Regardless if we’re doing it for fun or to speak life into people, we want an audience, correct? Be real! Tell your friends, your cousins, your mom- EVERYONE! These individuals become your biggest support team and keep you motivated.

So, without further ado- Get up and go after what you want!



#MotivationMondays- I Don’t Matter! (Be Selfless)



Living in NYC, I usually come across hundreds of individuals on a day to day basis. Most of them seem stressed, tired and fed up due to working extremely hard to make a living. The American Dream/ “success” often causes us to focus on US. Nonetheless, you do have to make a living , right? Nothing at all is wrong with that, but forgetting others in the process is wrong.

Recently I realized that even myself, is guilty of this! I was reading 1 Corinthians on my way to Delaware this weekend and pulled out the following- “No one should seek their own good, but the good of others.” (1 Corinthians 10:24). We often are so focused on social status, disregarding other individuals of the world. To give a helping hand or treat someone with kindness, it takes a lot of effort. Why? Often times, we don’t care to relate to others until a struggle in our own lives happens.

I decided to shoot a video discussing this topic because everyone needs to hear it, including myself. As I read through 1 Corinthians, this truly exemplifies how we should treat other individuals. By watching this video, I hope to encourage you all to think of other individuals. Last month, I had the opportunity to volunteer with the Red Cross and help make disaster packages for families that lose their homes. This month, I am working on becoming a mentor for the Big Brother Big Sister Organization. I hope to encourage you guys to lend a helping hand! An act of kindness towards someone or even a helping hand doesn’t cost a thing. #BeSelfless



Motivation Mondays- How To Deal With Negative People

I hope that you’re off to an amazing start of the week! Today, I decided to do a video on how to deal with negative people/negative energy. The older I get, I realize that negativity is everywhere! The more and more I see it, I realize that everything doesn’t need a reaction. You have to choose very wisely as to what you let sit and marinate with you because that can be the exact seed to a reaction that isn’t beneficial for you or your spirit. There will always be negativity and you can’t control it, therefore it’s up to you to change your perspective about the situation when it happens at that very moment. Here are three ways that help me deal with negativity.


  • Examine the root of it– Like I stated before, everything is not worth a reaction, however let’s face it. We are human! Some things may hit home and cause us to get into our emotions, but when that happens I choose to dig deeper. The individual that is giving off that negative energy may be suffering from the “kick the cat syndrome” (To release your frustration and powerlessness by snapping at an innocent person or creature who just happens to be handy). Often times they are hurting inside and going through something far more bigger than little ol’ you! When I do this, my hurt/anger usually turns into sympathy. I feel for that individual and my main focus eventually alters. Hurt people often hurt other individuals. So choose to dig deeper and give off a positive reaction (if any).


  • Cancel out negative thoughts/actions and replace them with positive ones– Be kind! When someone throws negativity towards you, they are looking for a reaction! I always try to smile or throw out an act of kindness instead. I think it’s terrible to let 1 person out of billions of people in the world alter your character. Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” This wasn’t always easy for me. Trust me, I had a reaction for EVERYTHING and EVERYONE lol. To this day, at the start of my day I ask God to help me be kind throughout the day just in case I slip up lol. This is something we all should practice on a day to day basis.


  • Know that you can’t please everyone- You can’t please everyone and you won’t be liked by everyone. Therefore you have to accept that and embrace what’s in front of you at the present moment. Always stay true to you, your character and be in control of your spirit! 


Hope that you enjoyed this topic. This is a new blog series called #MotivationMondays ! I will have a new topic to talk about every Monday. Thanks for reading!




Hi Loves!

Unless you’ve been sleeping under a rock, you know that the Missy Lynn Palette recently launched with BH Cosmetics. Missy Lynn is one of my favorite YouTubers and I just had to support her! I purchased 2 Missy Lynn palettes, one for me and my giveaway winner Jasmyne! Congratulations again Jasmyne!  I’ve been doing different looks with this palette and i have to say that I definitely recommend it. The shadows are very well pigmented and glide on so easily! Today,I decided to create this look and I absolutely love it. Hope you guys enjoy this video!

Products Used:

*Primer- Mac Studio Fix Concealer (NC45)
*Transition Color- “Texture” from Mac Cosmetics
*2nd Lower Transition Color- Missy Lynn Palette
*Crease Color- “Vino” from Motives Cosmetics
* Outer V– Missy Lynn Palette
*Lid Color- Missy Lynn Palette
*Lashes- Elite Lashes in 118
*Regular Pencil Black Eyeliner for Water Line
*Lower Lash Line Color- Missy Lynn Palette
*Mascara- L’oreal Telescopic Mascara in Carbon Black

*Foundation- Nars All Day Luminous Weightless Foundation in New Gineau
*Concealor- Nars Creamy Radiant Concealor in Amande
*Ben Nye Banana Powder to set Highlight
*Contour- MAC Match Master Concealer in #9
*Set Contour- Mac Blush- Blunt
-Highlight- Becca Highlighter in Topaz


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