Hey SSB Fam!
I’m back with another #RANDOMS post because a lot is on my mind as per usual! How are you guys though? If you are totally confused by the title, please go back to my very first #RANDOMS post where I discuss my reasoning behind making this “a thing”.
Can I just say, I am so thankful that I serve a God who continuously refines my character throughout the different seasons of my life? I am so thankful! Recently I spoke about this breakthrough that felt so freeing. There is beauty in simply living. Social Media and my generation can get so caught up in trying to keep up. Truth is, what are we truly keeping up with? Who can look the busiest? Who can look the most holy? Who can look like like their living their best life? This once affected me. Truth is, the more we are trying to keep up with the Joneses of the world we are not living. I came to the understanding that I want to be authentically me with my content and who I am on and off social.
It was a goal of mine this month specifically to get out of my comfort zone. I was inspired by a fellow blogger JustKay, to create a July challenge. I wore minimal makeup, got faux locs instead of another weave and was a bit more vulnerable on social. It was awesome. If you feel that you’re in bondage to the worlds standards, I encourage you to pray about it and watch God work.
Being Called Doesn’t Mean It’s Easy
I saw a quote on Facebook a couple of weeks ago and it said “Christ has no hands and feet on earth but yours”. This quote not only inspired me to take The Great Commission even more seriously, but it reminded me that even though we are called it doesn’t mean it will be easy. Yes, God gives us grace to do everything were called to do, but it may feel like WORK. I told you all that I had my very first Gods Girls Brunch back in March. It was hard to execute, plan, and promote. I felt like giving up but Gods grace allowed it to happen. Whatever you’re called to do, it won’t be a walk in the park daily. It may be difficult, but that doesn’t prove that God is absent.
Where do I even start?
A lot of people continuously ask me why I don’t share much about my relationship. I actually did a video about this on Youtube. When I think about Christian Relationships, there’s one image that most people try to portray- a couple in vocational ministry not kissing or hugging until marriage. It was so annoying to me when I single and I actually wanted to slap myself for giving any relationship “gurus” any time of day. Truth is, Good works differently in each relationship. There is no formula and some things you need to learn by being in one. Your boyfriend is coming into the relationship with his own “mess”. How they were raised plays a part, as does their past experiences and their own insecurities, etc. However, God is choosing you to walk side by side as he sanctifies you both.
Realistically praying together daily isn’t what happens. There are times when we do pray together, however we are still on our own individual walks with God (single and married). We will struggle with sexual temptation, but setting boundaries helps so much. You will fail each other because you are both human. We still have to look to God as our hope, joy and strength.
This my friend, is a Christian relationship. Two messy people serving a perfect God. I don’t want to be relationship goals or appear to be people we are not. We just simply love each other and Jesus.
Also, we just hit 2 years dating on July 16th. Excited for what God has in store for us!
Keep fighting daily.